Carl W. Despreaux Sr., West Windsor; Robert A. Francesconi, Manchester; Bruce Henn, Port Monmouth; Ethel S. Hill, Middletown; Edward A. Kuleshewsky, Holmdel; Dolores B. Longfield, Fair Haven; Kevin McGarry, Ocean; Esther Dapin Rose, Neptune; Betty Ann Jackson Ryan; Patrick Joseph Ryan, Highlands; Thomas Paul Weistead, Shrewsbury
Carl W. Despreaux Sr.
Carl W. Despreaux Sr., 101, of West Windsor, formerly of Rumson and Tinton Falls, died on April 16
at Samaritan Inpatient Hospice Center at Virtua Hospital, Mt Holly.
Carl was born and educated in Rumson, graduated from Red Bank High School, and lived in Rumson with his wife Florence until 1960, when they moved to Tinton Falls. In 2007 they moved to Bear Creek Assisted Living in West Windsor.
He was a master stonemason and carpenter, but at the outbreak of World War II he began work in the defense industry at Bendix Aviation Corp. (now Honeywell/Allied) in Eatontown, where he advanced to chief purchasing agent. After retirement, he worked at Monmouth Park racetrack for many years. His hobbies included woodworking, landscaping, traveling, bowling, and reading. His favorite pastime was cutting his beautiful lawn on his riding lawnmower, which he continued to do until age 95. He was a longtime member of St. George’s-by-the-River Episcopal Church, Rumson, the Bendix Retirees Club, and drove for Meals on Wheels.
Carl was predeceased by his parents Simon and Jeanette Despreaux, and his sisters Jeanette VanBrunt and Ruth Hallam. Surviving are his beloved wife of 72 years, Florence; his son Carl and his wife, Sandra, of Manahawkin; his daughter, Carol and her husband, Dr. Taylor Reeder, of East Windsor; his grandchildren, Cynthia Vetrano and her husband Joseph; Dr. Michele Despreaux and her husband Larry Healey, Taylor Reeder and his wife, Christine, Jeffrey Despreaux and his wife, Lanie, Amy DeRose and her husband, Carmin; nine great-grandchildren Arcangelo, Tatiana, Benjamin, Nicholas, Sloane, Jessica, Danielle, Alexandra and Samantha; and many nieces and nephews.
A visitation will be held at the John E. Day Funeral Home, 85 Riverside Avenue, Red Bank from 11 a.m.-12 p.m. on Friday, April 20 with a funeral service at 12 p.m. Interment will follow at Fairview Cemetery in Middletown. In lieu of flowers, donations may be sent in Carl’s memory to Samaritan Hospice, 5 Eves Drive, Suite 300, Marlton, NJ 08053 or National Down Syndrome Society, 666 Broadway New York, NY 10012.
Robert A. Francesconi
Robert A. Francesconi, 71, formerly of Red Bank and most recently of Manchester, died on April 15 at Jersey Shore University Medical Center. Robert was a master hair stylist and was employed at Trimz in Eatontown. He was a communicant of St. Anthony Roman Catholic Church, Red Bank for many years. For more than 19 years, Robert was the coordinator of the Blue Army of Our Lady of Fatima, Jersey Shore Chapter.
Robert was predeceased by his parents, Thomas R. and Geraldine; and a brother, Thomas X. Surviving are his wife, Geraldine; two daughters, Graceanne and her husband, James T. Welsh III, and Marisa and her husband, Ron MacCarty, both of Jackson; a sister, Anne F. Kirman of Manchester; and three grandchildren, Connor James, Justin Thomas and Julia Rose.
Thompson Memorial Home, Red Bank, was in charge of arrangements.
Bruce Henn, 82, of Port Monmouth, died on April 14 in Holmdel. Bruce served the United States in both the Army and the Merchant Marines from 1945 to 1947. After being honorably discharged, he owned and operated a jewelry and furniture store in Newark for many years and was retired from the Essex County Sheriff’s Department. Later in life Bruce enjoyed his time as a vendor at the flea markets. He was a member of VFW Post 2179, and the American Legion.
Bruce was predeceased by his first wife, Laura Henn in 1983; his daughter, Josefa Caswell in 2003; and his parents, Andrew and Solveig Henn. Surviving are his wife of 27 years, Ana Henn; his son and daughter-in-law, Arne and Debra Henn; his six daughters, Linda Dorsa and her husband Billy, Helen Henn and her husband Matthew, Janet Ericson and her husband Allen, Carol Burns and her husband Erin, Solveig Henn, and Alexandra Paulino; his 15 grandchildren; and four great-grandchildren.
John F. Pfleger Funeral Home, Middletown, was in charge of arrangements.
Ethel S. Hill
Ethel S. Hill, 99, of the Shadow Lake Village area of Middletown, died on April 16 at her home. She was a resident of Shadow Lake Village for the past 31 years. Born Ethel Clare Seeber in Buffalo, N.Y., she was the second of four children. She became the matriarch of her family until her passing. Educated in the Buffalo public school system, her scholastic achievements allowed her to attend William Smith College until the Depression required her to cut short her education to provide support to her widowed mother and her siblings.
After the Depression ended, she met her future husband, R. Lester Hill, while on a cruise. They were married in October,1940 and spent the next 36 years together until his death in 1976. Their children Richard and Susan were born in 1942 and 1945 respectively. In 1946, the family moved to Hackensack. She became active in the community. Her contributions included membership and leadership roles in the Parent Teacher Association, the Good Government League, the Youth Guidance Council, her church and other community groups. When the children were older, she resumed her career as a legal secretary, law clerk and administrative assistant for a private legal firm and later State and county judges. She was the administrative assistant to the lawyer who was appointed to be the Chief Justice of the New Jersey Supreme Court. She retired in 1990 from the Bergen County Court System.
In 1991 she moved to Shadow Lake. She served as condominium representative and officer positions in the condominium board. She was an avid golfer and was a life member of the SLV Golf Association until the age of 94. She enjoyed competitive bridge play until just recently.
Her fondest memories were of times spent with her family during holidays and vacations with them on Lake Erie Shores, the New Jersey shore and family weddings and reunions. She was a member of the First Baptist Church of Red Bank.
Surviving are her children; four grandchildren, Lisa, Erica, Leigh and Benjamin; and five great-grandchildren, Connor, Emily, Hudson, Kaitlin and Ellie.
A memorial gathering will be held on Friday, April 20, from 3-5 p.m. with a prayer service beginning at 4:45 at the Thompson Memorial Home, 310 Broad St., Red Bank. Donations in lieu of flowers are requested by the family to Hobart and William Smith Colleges, Geneva, N.Y. or the Visiting Nurse Association and Hospice Group of Central New Jersey.
Edward A. Kuleshewsky
Edward A. Kuleshewsky, 89, of Holmdel, died at home on April 15. He was born and raised in Elizabeth. Edward retired as a captain from Elizabeth Police Department in 1979 and moved to Waretown.
Surviving are his wife of 71 years, Rose (nee Adamo); his three daughters, Roseann Reeves, Lynn Dougher, Barbara Santora; his 10 grandchildren; his 21 great-grandchildren; and his four great-great-grandchildren.
Visitation will be held on Thursday, April 19, from 2 to 4 and 7 to 9 p.m. at John F. Pfleger Funeral Home, 115 Tindall Road, Middletown. Funeral services are scheduled for Friday, April 20 at 9:30 a.m. at the funeral home. A Funeral Liturgy will be offered at 10:30 a.m. at St. Mary’s Chapel, 26 Leonardville Rd., Middletown. Cremation will be private. Memorial donation may be made to the Meridian Health Foundation, 1345 Campus Pkwy, Suite A2, Neptune, NJ 07753-9930.
Dolores B. Longfield
Dolores B. Longfield, 96, a 55-year resident of Fair Haven, died peacefully at home on April 12. Dolores was born in Newark, to Harry and Mary (Singer) Brevoort.
During World War II she served her country as an Army WAC and also worked for National Lock Washer. Later, Dolores spent many years employed by the Fair Haven school district and was a former president of the school board.
She was predeceased by a son, Glen A. Longfield in 1989. Then, in 1998 she lost her beloved husband of 55 years, Adrian N. Longfield. Surviving are two sons, Bruce M. Longfield of Florida, and Scott D. Longfield with whom she lived and who cared for her over the last 15 years. The family would like to thank Mrs. Longfield’s home companion, Pat Gray, for her devoted care and love she has provided for the last two years. She has been a blessing to all of us.
Dolores will be interred with her husband at Arlington National Cemetery, Va. Memorial donations may be made to Holiday Express, 968 Shrewsbury Ave # 6, Tinton Falls, NJ 07724.
Kevin McGarry of Ocean, died on April 11. He was born in Staten Island, N.Y., and raised in Lincroft. He attended Christian Brothers Academy where he played soccer and baseball. He graduated from Life University School of Chiropractic in 1996 and for a time practiced at Health in Hand Chiropractic in Middletown. Kevin loved spending time with family, the love of his life, Mindy, as well as his many close friends. Golfing, fishing and camping were his favorite pastimes.
Kevin was predeceased by his paternal grandparents, Patrick and Rose McGarry, and his maternal grandparents, Charles and Margaret Wolf. Surviving are his loving parents, James and Lorna McGarry of Brick, a cherished brother, James McGarry and sister-in-law, Geraldine and their adored children, Connor, Ronan and Aidan; and many caring uncles, aunts and cousins.
John E. Day Funeral Home, Red Bank, was in charge of arrangements. Memorial donations may be made to Christian Brothers Academy, St. LaSalle Auxiliary, 850 Newman Springs Rd. Lincroft, NJ 07738.
Esther Dapin Rose
Local fourth grade teacher Esther Dapin Rose died this past March, just days after her 93rd birthday in her home in Neptune. Esther lived most of her life with her family in Little Silver. She was the widow of Sidney Rose to whom she was married for 65 years. Esther was one of three sisters originally from Gillet, Wisconsin; Geraldine Ginsburg and Edith Maizlish (both deceased). She was the salutatorian of her high school and graduate of the University of Wisconsin in Madison. She later got a BS in teaching.
She was an extremely dedicated elementary school teacher in the Middletown Township public school system who taught fourth grade at River Plaza, Middletown Village and New Monmouth schools. Esther was always concerned for the rights others. She helped students and teachers to overcome early integration problems in the Middletown school system. Every student no matter the race, creed or color was guaranteed the best possible education in Esther’s classes. Her legacy lives not just through the education of her son, David Rose, but also the thousands of students that she helped prepare for their future lives. She lived for her family and to teach. She was a teacher 24 hours a day.
She and her family traveled all over the world; exploring different people, cultures and politics. She always brought these experiences home which created many lively political discussions, focused the needs of society and the education of children. She and husband Sidney continued their education into their late 80s There was always something to learn and something new to experience.
Surviving are her son, David Rose and nephews and nieces throughout the United States.
A memorial will be held on April 28 from 12 to 3 p.m. Please contact the Thompson Funeral Home, Red Bank at (732) 747-0226 for further details.
Betty Ann Jackson Ryan
Betty Ann Jackson Ryan died on April 12, just three days before her 86th birthday. She was born in Norfolk, Va., and raised outside of Philadelphia. She graduated from The Baldwin School in the class of 1944 and Sweet Briar College in the class of 1948. She married William J. Ryan II shortly after college. Married for 58 years, Betty Ann and Bill raised four children and had 12 grandchildren.
She and her family moved to Monmouth County in 1957. She found an outlet for her energy and enthusiasm for community service when she became a charter member of the Navarumsunk Auxiliary of Family & Children’s Service. Thus began a lifelong devotion to making a positive impact on the lives of those in need in Monmouth County. Betty Ann contributed her considerable volunteer skills to Family & Children’s Service in many capacities over the years. She served as Navarumsunk Auxiliary president from 1965-1967 and she was especially proud to have served as president of the F&CS Board of Directors from 1983-1984.
Betty Ann was also a devoted member of The First Presbyterian Church at Tower Hill for over 50 years. She served as an elder of the church from 1985-1988. She was a valued member of the Worship & Music committee and a longtime member of the Elizabeth Circle. For the past 10 years she led the wedding coordinators at Tower Hill while also serving on the grief care committee.
She traveled extensively, both with her husband and recently with her children. Her travels with Bill included Australia, New Zealand and much of Western Europe. Just prior to her death, she had traveled with two of her sons to the south of France and Monte Carlo.
Betty Ann was predeceased by her beloved husband, Bill in 2009. Surviving are her four children: three sons, Walter and his wife, Lynn, of Cheshire, Conn., William (Bill, Jr.) and his wife, Catarina, of Rumson, and Jeffrey and his wife, Lisa, of New Fairfield, Conn., and one daughter, Anne LaPre and her husband, David, of Mendham; 12 grandchildren: Kimberly, Christopher, Bradford, Geoffrey Ryan, Joakim, Tobias and Christina Ryan, Taylor, Megan and Jake Ryan, and Margaret and Ryan LaPre; her two brothers, Milton C. Jackson Jr. and his wife, Pat, of Tequesta Fla., and Felix Jackson and his wife, Dena, of Metairie La.; and her sister-in-law, Barbara Ryan of Malvern, Pa.
Thompson Memorial Home, Red Bank, was in charge of donations. Memorial donations may be made to the Family & Children’s Service of Monmouth County, 191 Bath Avenue, Long Branch, NJ 07740.
Patrick Joseph Ryan
Patrick Joseph Ryan, 46, of Highlands, died on April 9 due to complications of diabetes. Patrick was born in Annadale, Staten Island, and was raised in Great Kills. He later moved to Richmond, Va. before settling in New Jersey. Patrick graduated from Tottenville H.S. and attended St. Johns’ University. While in high school, he was a member of the All City Band, and was listed in Who’s Who In American High Schools. He was also a member of the National Anglers Assoc. Patrick was a cook at the Marina Cafe and later Adobe Blues restaurants. He was a longtime manager at the NDL Transportation Company, Jersey City. Patrick enjoyed traveling to Las Vegas, and would always find time to enjoy a good cup of coffee. He was continually searching for the perfect New York bagel of his youth. Patrick particularly enjoyed spending time with his niece and nephews, who are all heart-broken at his passing.
He was predeceased by his parents, Joseph F. and Helen J. Ryan. Surviving are his sisters, Eileen Woodbury of Monmouth Beach, Tara Ryan Killeen and her husband, Joe, of Highlands, Shannon Ryan Six and her husband, Ken, of Howell; a brother, Kevin and his wife, Eileen, of Chesterfield, Va.; five nephews, Sean, Christopher and Liam Ryan, and Brennan and Connor Six; and his niece, Moriah Lynn Six. His entire family will miss his scathing wit and fascinating conversation.
Memorial donations may be made to the American Diabetes Association, or make a donation to your local food bank in Patrick’s memory. Jersey Shore Cremation Service, Manasquan, was in charge of arrangements.
Thomas Paul Welstead
Thomas Paul Welstead, 74, of Shrewsbury, died on April 15, surrounded by his family, at Meridian Nursing and Rehabilitation in Shrewsbury. Thomas was very active his whole life and touched the hearts of many people. He grew up in Matawan, where he met and married his high school sweetheart, Muriel Baker. Thomas and Muriel settled in Shrewsbury to raise their three children. He was an accomplished professional welterweight boxer at the young age of 20. In 1957, he was named fighter of the year. He later pursued his lifelong career as an ironworker with Local #45 and retired in 2000 at the age of 62 after 34 years.
The most important thing in the world to him was spending time with his grandchildren and being the loving and devoted pop pop he was. He will be remembered as a man who put all others needs above his own and will be forever loved.
Thomas was predeceased by his parents, John Eugene and Eleanor Marie (McGiff) Welstead; and a brother, Michael Richard. Surviving are his beloved wife Muriel, with whom he enjoyed 54 loving years; three children, Jeffrey and his wife, Cindy, of Port Reading, Kathleen Smith and her husband, Joseph, of Spring Lake Heights, and Judith of Shrewsbury; five grandchildren, Joseph, Shayne, Erin, Jimmy and Sandra; great-grandchildren, Bryan, Kaylee and Danica; brothers, Jackie and wife Maureen of Georgia, Edward and wife Mary of Shrewsbury and Gregory of Texas; sisters, Patricia Marsh of New Jersey and Eleanor Skully of Florida; and a sister-in-law, Joan Welstead of Atlantic Highlands.
Visitation will be held Thursday, April 19 from 4-8 p.m. at the John E. Day Funeral Home, 85 Riverside Avenue, Red Bank. A Mass of Christian burial will be celebrated at St. James RC Church, Red Bank on Friday, April 20 at 9 a.m. Interment will follow at St. Joseph’s Cemetery, Keyport. In lieu of flowers, the family kindly requests donations be made in Thomas’ memory to the Alzheimer’s Association, P.O. Box 96011 Washington, DC 20090-6011.